What Kind of Communication Problem Does Your Relationship Have?

Did you know there are different types of communication problems? The type of problem you have can tell us how easy or difficult it will be to work through.  

“Simple” comm problems are directly related to the kind of communication you are having and are caused by a difference in how you talk to people in general. 

Partners who have different comm styles (one uses direct language the other uses indirect language) may experience frustration and misunderstandings.

Or one partner is very assertive in their tone of voice, and the other less so. The more assertive partner may be accused of “yelling” and this can lead to an unnecessary argument about yelling. 

Complex Communication problems are more difficult because poor communication is secondary, it’s actually a result of a bigger underlying problem. 

In my experience, these types of issues are created when one or both partners have feelings of resentfulness, defensiveness, or contempt towards each other. This gets in the way of being able to effectively talk about stuff.